Love and friendship

I always ask myself why people can’t stay in love.

Why is loving so difficult for people who live together, day after day?

I am convinced that we often believe our own pretence.

We think that we love someone else.

But, in  fact, we only love ourselves; we love ‘me’.

Each one expects too much of the other.

It is the other person who must be pleasant.The other person must build me up, must help me out,

Must never be grumpy, must never nag.

At the slightest failing, I feel hurt.

We think too little, may be never, about what we ourselves can give 

or can do for our partner.

Don’t blurt out without thinking,‘you don’t love me any more’.

No, not before you yourself have given everything.